College can be the most demanding years of a young person’s life. Students will usually find that it is difficult to balance studies, social life, family and extracurricular activities. This is partially why breaking up is so difficult for young couples in college; break-ups often offset this precarious balance.
Most people don’t wind up marrying their college sweetheart. Therefore, you’re more than likely to experience a break-up during your college life. When that person is gone, your whole life may change, along with your emotional state. Break-ups can be an enormous shift and it is important to discover ways to maintain not only your grades, but also your mental health.
Here are a few ways to keep the fallout of a break-up from derailing your studies and your life:
Keep a Journal
It can be hard to vocalize what you are feeling while going through a difficult time. Sometimes the best way to get your feelings off your chest is by writing in a journal. It allows you an opportunity to not only express yourself, but a chance to analyze your emotions and even identify points of trouble. The first step to overcoming a break-up may be to figure out exactly what is preventing you from moving on.
Make a Schedule
The ability to create a schedule and maintain a daily routine can help you get over an ex. It’s important to replace the time periods that you would normally spend together with your boyfriend or girlfriend with other gratifying activities. Those periods can be filled with classwork, friends and hobbies, allowing you to become more productive. By redirecting your mental energies, you will be able to accomplish more, thus raising your confidence and self-esteem, while also ensuring that you aren’t spending time dwelling on your break-up.
Take a Break from Social Networks
In a world that seems to revolve around Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and other social networking tools, taking a break from these communities may seem unimaginable. Still, understand that removing yourself from these social networks, at least temporarily, eliminates the temptation to constantly check up on your ex’s profile, while also freeing up your time for more productive activities.
Focus on School Work with the Help of Others
When in a depressed state after a break-up, being alone can be difficult — but being alone and trying to study can be even harder. In cases like this, it’s important to seek the help of others. Studying with friends allows for them to keep you focused and engaged. Being with your friends also offers you the opportunity to discuss your emotional or academics struggles with a sympathetic other. Remember: If the people who care about you know what you are going through, they can better help you stay on track.
Talk it Out
If the relationship can allow it, talk to your ex. Discussing your issues with each other can be a beneficial method of moving on — but make sure to do so in a leveled, constructive way. Healthy communication can go a long way in eliminating any lingering “What Ifs” that may otherwise overwhelm your thoughts and prevent you from focusing on your academic work. Remember while speaking to your ex that you are trying to help each other overcome the break-up, not instigate a confrontation or simply air your grievances.
Everyone knows that break-ups can be hard, but it is most important to keep everything in perspective. Your education should be your priority. Do not let anything stand in its way.
Hopefully by following some of these tips you can develop your own strategy for regaining the balance between your academics, social life, family and everything else that is important to you.