It can be easy to fall apart after a break up. Even if you were the one that did the breaking up it can be hard when you realise that really you made a mistake, that you want the relationship back. But too many people simply use this as a moment to bury their head in the sand…
… or worse, beg for the ex back, act all needy and desperate, thinking that asking alone will prove to their ex that the relationship should be brought back from the dead. Not only is this not the way to do it, but it is an almost a sure fire way to ruin any chance you might have of getting your ex back.
Confidence is Attractive
Stop and think a moment. Would you want to be in a relationship where the other person is needy, who begs for things? No, most people wouldn’t. Which is why you shouldn’t take that route. What you need to be is confident, to show that you can stand on your own two feet.
The reason for this is that many people naturally like to consider the other person as missing them after a break up. Whilst they may not want to hurt you they also like to think that they made a big impact on your life, that you miss their presence. So when they see you confident and out around town they start to question not just their point of view, but everything about your relationship, including if the break up was the right thing to do.
And of course confidence is attractive, by showing you are on top of yourself, that you aren’t wallowing in self pity of begging for another chance, you show that you can be a person that they can find attractive again. Want your ex back? Start acting confident, even if you don’t feel it.