If you want your ex back it is natural to look to the future. Of course you glance to the past, remembering how it was to be with him or her, but it is the future that concerns most people. How to win them back, what tricks, clever stunts or accidental meetings you can come up with. Not to mention how good it will feel to get them back.
But before you look to the future and start planning out a future that has your ex back in your life you need to look back at the past, at what went wrong in your relationship.
What changed? What made a loving relationship turn into a break up? Before you have any hope of getting your ex back you need to address that.
Most people change, it is a simple fact of life. As we grow older our thoughts, perceptions, likes and dislikes change – as well as our personality and actions. So look back over the whole of the relationship, what changed? Was it you or them?
If it was you, and that your ex still has the same in their likes and dislikes, you need to address your own changes, you need to get back to the person that you were, the person that your ex fell for in the first place.
If it was them that changed, how did they change? What has changed about their likes and dislikes – and how do you appeal to those likes yourself? It is far from impossible, and we are not talking about changing yourself entirely, or deceiving anyone, but about showing the side of your personality that they most want to see, that they will find attractive – which is no different than we all do on dates anyway!
What to change, what to do, all depends on what your ex is like… but make sure you address your past before you plan your future – because that very future with your ex may depend on it.